“With the changing seasons come new beginnings.” – Unknown
Did you think there are 4 seasons? There are really 5!
Let me explain…
On Sunday the weather was lovely in the morning – warm and sunny and I was ready for my game of golf.
As I was packing my bag I was questioning…do I need another jumper or maybe a jacket?
Would I be warm enough without them? My weather app didn’t help me.
I was dithering – do I or don’t I?
Then the decision was made – I would take an extra jumper and jacket just in case!
As we were coming down the 18th fairway, there were a few spots of rain and then a few more and then it started pelting with rain – cats and dogs.
I wasn’t expecting that – there was no rain forecast and so the downpour caught me by surprise.
What did I do?
There was not a lot I could do…there was no shelter, I had not put in my umbrella and so I accepted that it was out of my control, that I would get wet and that I could have a warm shower when I got home.
This is like the Season of Transition we go through when we are implementing change.
Firstly, you are in a comfortable place and you know what to expect and then you start to move into the season of transition – that time where you question whether you need a jumper or not.
You question yourself, doubt your ability, doubt your decision making and may retreat back to your comfort zone.
Just like me playing golf – sometimes you just need to make the best decision you can!
And then as you are going through that season of transition, you get a curve ball – the sudden downpour.
It wasn’t planned or expected!
It can be these things that completely derail you. You may feel a failure because you didn’t plan for it or are unsure how to deal with it.
How do you deal with curve balls?
When this happens (and it will definitely happen in one way or another!), you have to decide what is within your control and what you can do about it, if anything.
In other words, you may want to consider your Circle of Influence:
In this situation, ask yourself these questions:
1. Is this within my direct control?
If yes, then change your actions or behaviours – did you know NLP can help you do this?
If the answer is no, then ask…
2. Is this due to someone else’s actions?
If yes, work on your interactions to expand your influence – did you know NLP can help you do this?
If the answer is no, then ask…
3. Is this outside of my control?
If the answer is no to the first two, this time it will be yes!
Therefore accept the situation and save your energy and focus on what you can control.
Did you know NLP can help you do this too?
As Your Catalyst for Change, I can teach you NLP skills to help you manage your season of transition and to improve your performance in all 3 circles; changing your behaviours, improving your communication and relationship skills and managing your emotional state.
Where do you want to improve your performance?